Monday, December 1, 2008

Why my hubby is perfect for me

Well, it's actually pretty simple. God gave us to each other. Since God is perfect and He never makes mistakes, then my hubby is perfect for me.

I would have to say that one of the most difficult roles a woman must learn is that of being a wife. Being a mom comes naturally to most of us. We may have some learning to do or experience to gain, but, for the most part, we kinda know what we're doing.

A wife, on the other hand...well, that is a whole other story. See, God created husbands to be the provider for the family and head of the household. That means he makes the final decision.

Elisabeth Elliot talks about her fathers role in the home as she was growing up:
"Head of the house' did not mean our father barked out orders, threw his weight around, and demanded submission from his wife. It simply meant that he was the one finally responsible."

As wives, we want to kind of take that role over. However, we were created to be a helper to our husbands. We are to stand behind him 100% of the time. Support him, love him, stand by him, and let him lead. That doesn't mean we become doormats, but there is a way to lovingly state your thoughts in a way that is honoring and pleasing to both God and our husbands.

In the book I'm reading, A Woman After God's Own Heart, there are several, very interesting statements on marriage. The author, Elizabeth George, was doing some reading and came upon an woman named Anne Ortlund. Anne Ortlund made this statement about marriage and her role, "I have no desire to run parallel to Ray, sprinting down the track in competition. I want to be behind him, encouraging him."

That is the desire of my heart. I don't want to compete with Mike. I strive to continually push him (not literally) forward. By my words and my actions. Being submissive isn't a bad thing and it's not degrading. It's an honor. To be my husbands helper. The world will never see it that way, but that's ok. I'm not concerned with what the world things. The only things I am concerned with is obey my God.

1 Corinthians 11:3
"The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God."

In keeping with the theme I have a really cool site for all you submissive wives. *wink*

Go check out this site and consider making a purchase. Show the world that you are proud of your hubby and you're not afraid to say it.

On a side note: I am far from perfect. I use the word "strive" because this is something I am working towards. I haven't arrived at perfection. In fact, I'll never arrive until I see my Savior in heaven, face to face. So, until that time, I will continue to work hard, to strive, towards being the wife I am supposed to be. Most importantly I will seek to serve and please God first, then my husband, then my children. Everyone and everything is underneath that.

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